Life is not personal and it is ----
What if it wasn’t an accusation but an awareness I could hear?
I love to dance and Argentine Tango is my favorite form. It’s all about connection and presence of one step at a time. I take lessons and practice several times a week.
One key element to dance is the embrace. The embrace is how you hold your dance partner. It is the connection and the space created with the embrace is the co-created dance space that is part of what makes dancing so satisfying. You can imagine my surprise when I found out that, to my instructor, my embrace was “nothing”.
Tango is a metaphor for my life. If life is not flowing, it shows up in my dance. If I’m feeling good, confident and strong that also shows up in my dance. Tango, for me, allows me to see, hear, feel and have awareness around my life. So what is this saying to me? Now, I could take it as a criticism or even an accusation. That would be a story my ego would like to tell me. That is not what is going on here. What is happening is I am gaining information and awareness so I could make a different choice. One of my dance partners is saying to me that my embrace, my connection is not present enough for him to feel it. Awareness is the first step to change. If you’re not aware, you cannot make a different choice.
What IF the perceive criticism, accusation or complaint is really the best way I could receive awareness about something I would like to make a different choice around?
What IF my embrace was showing me how I am holding back instead of engaging?
Do you have an activity that acts like a metaphor in your life that you can use as an awareness tool you have yet to recognize?
Today I call the Goddess forth. The one who wishes to be invoked and to be acknowledged, who’s time has come to be recognized as the beautiful power, strength and compassionate force within us which operates from loving kindness and complete joy. She is one that establishes “enough”. She knows how to use her resources in ways that indulge, not deplete. She is the wise one that is open to possibilities and see the stories for what they are, perspectives that change with a different eye. She, who is honest about what her circumstances reflect back to her in her life. She, who responds and has the ability to own her life and own it in the most magnificent way. She drops all pretenses yet speaks with kindness, thoughtfully and from her sacred heart.
She, in all her roles of nurturer, confidant, initiator, lover, receiver, and playmate, she notices what seemingly is and dreams what she wishes to be from her wise place of knowledge and knowing. She has learned to trust herself. She has learned to see with the broader lens of an unfolding and that she may not have all the information, that there is a divine hand at play and trusts herself with her life and her guidance, intuition. Just as importantly, she trust others with their lives and that they have the right to choose for themselves and learn from their created experiences. All is well.
She brings forth the humor in her and know that the other foibles is part of her uniqueness and beauty. She is appreciative of this uniqueness that makes her, her and others themselves with a lightness and laughter. She often views her world with a child-like awe and experiences the beauty of what is around her. She allows herself to see, feel and know the benefits of a supportive Universe in which she lives and has help to create.
She wishes to be acknowledged. She wishes to be appreciated. She is an expert of allowing yet also knows “enough”. She speaks the “enough” with strength, certainty, calm and conviction. She is no wimp and her power and force comes from her internal stillness and peace, calm. She is determined to be in a world of love, move from strife and drama and notice the adjustment that must be made starting with “me first”. She consults and lives from her heart-centered place with the calm assurance that all is well and expansion is the active part of life to be embraced. She knows that fear is an illusion and it is a powerful one that has information to be gleaned. This is not a place to stop but a place to gain from so smart pathways can be chosen.
This Goddess that lives within all of us has much to offer. She is willing. Ask her to come forth and be a guiding light shining forth with goodness, beauty and truth now and forever more. She is taking her rightful place and keeping her silence no more. She is love in action. Fierce and gentle. Let her come forth with power, the ability to forgive and to live in the appreciation of all that is around her.
She can act as the love, loved and the beloved. Embrace her. Acknowledge her. Appreciate her. Ask her. Listen to her. Allow her essence to be the magic wand of life as she spreads and sparkles her presence now and paves ease for your future.